BE THE ONE !!!

It has been a while buddies, I am so, so sorry for the break in communion.

I want to share something that's burning like fire in my heart. I am
going crazy thinking about how cheap people sell their dreams on the
altar of "fear of what people will say"

I once wrote a poem titled BE THE ONE, but painfully, I lost my poem
diary - everything! Losing that diary is one of the few regrets I have
in life. However, before it got lost, I shared poems in it with
friends who I am currently trying to reach. I will share the peom 'BE
THE ONE' as soon as I lay hands on it again. Please, wish me luck!

Really, life's situations request that we stand out from the pack and
make ourselves known rather than cower like cowards, afraid of leaving
our limiting comfort zones. It is our response to these requests that
determine our significance both to the society and to our real selves.
Painfully, most humans choose to blend-in rather than stand-out. That
explains why we have so many people in the "average" cadre of life.

What plagues our world today is not AIDS or CANCER but the limiting
habit of doing just as much as will prevent public glare on us! What
has undermined our ineffectiveness isn't our external environment but
our internal environment - our disbelief at how smart, strong,
powerful, important we are! It's so painful how talents, skills,
passions, dreams end up in the waste bin for lack of boldness to stand
by them until they become accepted by the society. I have in my short
duration on earth seen the stillbirth of great ideas just because the
dreamers lacked faith in their dreams. C'mon, BE THE ONE!!!

Be the one to overturn the depressing, boring tables of life. Be the
one to seek redress. Be the one to bring in variety to life. Be the
one to speak out. Be the one to question convention. Be the one to
provise solutions. Be the one to provide diversity. You can really
never soar higher than you can envision yourself do. Choose to take
uncommon paths, if need be. Be free to take decisions nobody before
you had taken. Stop being too careful! You fall short of your true
potential each time you logically talk yourself out of doing something
that hasn't been done before, all in the guise of "being careful".

Have you discovered that the world belongs to "careless people"? It
belongs to people who aren't scared of making mistakes, people who are
eager to fall and fall some more, people who learn from each mistake
and do not become too critical and careful because they had fallen,
people who love to try out new things, people who love going against
the status quo even if they are wrong, people who are happy to chart
their own courses rather than ply the worn-out paths of men!

If you want to really leave a legacy here, if you really want to sign
your autograph on people around you, if you really want to fulfil your
purpose, then you must be willing to walk alone, think alone, plan
alone and achieve alone! It's nice to have partners but a lack of
partners is a dumb excuse for failing to attain your full height in
life! Work with partners when they present themselves, but be ready to
run your race alone! Why? Simple answer....it is YOUR race!!!

Yea, dream-crushers will sneer, mock and laugh at you for being odd,
wierd or even a freak! When they laugh at you for being different,
laugh at them all for being the same! Hahahahahaha. They are such a
bore for being so conventional !!!

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My teacher, BECKY.

People choose great teachers and heroes for themselves. I also do. I have selected great teachers and models who have helped to guide my thoughts and actions. I would really have loved to dedicate this post to them but my hen, Becky is my current celebrity, so I am dedicating this post to her. *wide smile*

I named her BECKY because she is just like my elder sister also named BECKY – character-wise (tough, resilient, okay with being alone and do not ‘need’ people’s approval to do what should be done).

Becky (my brown hen) was given to me by a friend so I took her away from her family at a tender age just because I was too eager to have a pet. She was so lonely, fragile and was the smallest of all the birds in my neighbourhood. That worked ill for her. She was bullied, had no relationships, missed her family, had no real home, was hungry in the midst of plenty (the other birds won’t let her eat with them), etc. Even when I feed her, older birds (bullies) deprived her of her own food!

I deliberately decided to do nothing about it. I wanted to see how resilient she is. I wanted to see if she will give up like we (humans) always do. I wanted to see how much she could take. I observed and watched her daily and made mental notes of her adaptation to the “harsh” life she had been exposed to and to her gradual progress. Days became weeks and weeks rolled up into months...

Just few days ago, I saw her looking so beautiful, robust and splendid with very bright-red comb and wattles, shiny brown-black plumage around her neck and lower back region and lots of friends around her. I was close to tears as I remembered the bible verse that says “the rejected stone has become the corner stone”. She had overcome and is still overcoming. I looked for those older birds that always deprived her of her food, alas, they are all gone – expired! I watched her to see if she is a bully too, I was too elated to discover that she isn't a bully – she had forgiven her enemies. Younger birds are free around her – except when I feed her! She had learnt to take what belongs to her! Wow! She going to be a mother soon. I can’t wait to tell her chicks how fortunate they are to have a mother so brave, resilient and confident.

Highlights from Becky’s struggles and victory.

·     The loneliness and rejection she faced were not enough to make her despair of life. She could take them all and even lots more! Moral: Refuse to give up just because no one has chosen to stand with you. Convert your lonely times to reflection times. Remember, the best inventions were not gotten in conferences and summits but by individuals who shut themselves away from public glare until they ‘struck gold’.

·   When bullied, she walks away confidently and calmly as if she had not been bullied. She wouldn't moan over her deprivation but will rather look for elsewhere to get food. Moral: Don’t cry over what you can let go. The present and past may be sour, but the future is yet undecided. Plough your frustrations into building a future that will provide all you have been presently deprived of!

·   She forgave her bullies. I have never seen her fight with any of them till date. Moral: Sometimes, lying low isn't cowardice. With time, your bullies will expire just like Becky's bullies expired. Today she eats what she wants, goes wherever she wants and has tons of friends who come home with her for lunch daily. Moral: Empty your heart of all bitterness. When people hurt you, they take power over you. When you refuse to forgive them, they keep that power.

·     She forgave herself too. She is not bitter. She is not cruel. Though she suffered from bullies, she did not become a bully herself. Younger birds are at peace around her. She is more like a mother, though not yet with chicks. Moral: Do not pay back people for the wrong other people did to you. Do not retain bitterness over what you have suffered in the past. Those who hurt you are no longer here, why make others.

·     Becky taught me that tough times never last! Yea, they never do. Though it seemed like she wasn't going to have a full life, she pressed on with hope and faith. Today she is living a full life. Moral: Hold onto your dreams. Times may be hard but hold on still. If you let your dream die, then life becomes like a broken-winged bird that cannot fly.

     

    Has Becky taught you something too? If yes, just wish her well. She is about having chicks soon.

     I love to hear from you.

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Why wait when you can act?

This post is dedicated to Nigerians...and to YOU!

October is here. The month Nigeria celebrates her independence. The month Nigeria became master over herself some 53 years ago. The month in which Nigeria took full responsibility for herself. As I congratulate Nigeria for a work in progress, I put a challenge across to you...

·         Have you taken responsibility over your own life and destiny?

·         Do you still feel discouraged because no one is supporting your dreams?

·         Are you still dependent on government and people for your life and future?

Reflect on those questions!

Nigeria’s Independence Day Celebration made me think deep about life and people. I read a lot of comments from people and discovered that tons of ideas are yet to leave the brain cells which created them just the government have not yet provided an enabling environment. What a waste! 

I felt so bad about how dependent we have become on others and the government. It pained me to see talents and potentials waste all because people await encouragement and support from government and other institution they un-wisely depend on. We have gradually come to think and believe that the government has all the solutions and must give their nod before we move on with our ideas. If government refuses to give you an enabling environment, will you prefer to sit and whine or create an enabling environment for yourself? Why wait when you can act? Why waste time waiting until others act when you can pull things off by yourself?

It is very true that we need others to do certain things. I agree with that. But if they do not show up, do we bury our dreams and ideas? Never! We ought to go out there to get those who are willing! That’s taking responsibility! If support doesn't come, go out and get it! If help doesn't come, go get it out there. By all means, don’t fail to act just because PEOPLE didn't make it easy for you.

Good news: You don’t need to have a bad idea before people give you a cold shoulder! Infact, you will get good support if your idea is bad! Reflect about what I just said before reading on. Take the clue and prove to the world that your rejected idea was worth it!

Great ideas suffer one thing in common : REJECTION.

I dare you today to come out of your comfort zone and take charge of the reins of your life! Get out of that cozy comfort you have been caged in for years and confront life with boldness and courage! Stop whining and complaining about how bad the government is, rather take that as a challenge and prove to the world that no one is indispensable in your voyage to destiny except God!

Issues that concern you shouldn't be left to chance. Remember, the best helping hand you can ever get is the one at the end of your own arm! Be wise! Act now!

I await your success story!!!

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HORN THE BULLS

Today’s post is dedicated to those who have risen above complains and have started taking initiatives where and when  needed...and to those who will start to horn the bulls after reading this.

The commonest injuries cowboys experience are those associated with the horns of the bulls. Bulls are very powerful animals but more powerful is the man who can horn them (immobilize the horns)! Horn the bulls is my own way of saying...take charge of the problem – don’t just talk about it. Let me state emphatically here that...”you have no right to complain about any issue you have ability to solve but have done nothing about yet – just ‘enjoy’ it!”.

My mentor, friend and father (Girish Gogia – more about him later) said something of great worth last week Friday which I am just too excited to share with you. He said “By taking a single step, you have already out-performed millions of people who’ve made excuses!”. That is the crux of issues in our society today. Who will horn the bulls?

There’s too much talk about what to do and what not to do but less actions are taken! Too much complain about what does not work but less actions to put it right. Truly, talk is cheap!

But then, there is a goodnews... oh yes! A very good one. The goodnews is that we (you and me) are better positioned now to shine brighter  than ever before!

As more darkness and irresponsibility covers out society, we who carry light in our hearts (BrightHearts) have more influence and our light is better seen. Since no one in willing to horn the bulls, the few who have determined to do so are worshipped and showered with good things ranging from the emotional to the physical. Society idolize those who are brave enough to oppose the status quo and yet succeed.

If no one will do it, get up, do it and become the star! If no one will stem the crazy tide of irresponsibility ravaging our societies, you get up, stem it and become the next ‘talk of the town’. Take responsibility and make a name for yourself! The road to glory and fame is laden with RESPONSIBILITIES which many rejected and have remained obscure till date.

Hey champion, don’t remain obscure. There is a lot hidden inside of you that will be of great value to the world around you. Refuse to be despised because of your age, background or status. Greatness is not synonymous to age! More importantly, refuse to despise yourself. You can doubt everyone else, please, don’t doubt yourself!

Remember... By taking a step, just one step, in line with your dream and passion, you have out-performed millions of others who’ve only made excuses (complains).

Are you ready to horn the bulls...?

Get set...

GO !!!

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Sign your autograph on me

I am very happy at the turn of events right now. As more evil prevail, we have more and more opportunities to show people we have bright-hearts. The darker the environment, the greater effect a light has!

I remembered seeing a film where a best-selling author has so many people asking for his autograph that he got a table and asked them to queue up. Wow! It was a long queue! He must have been really admired to have such a queue waiting for his autograph.

Autographs aren't really new to us. Your autograph is simply your handwriting or signature. No doubt, you have seen people ask for other people’s autographs. They do this because they greatly admire those people and want to have a kind of souvenir with which to remember those they admire.

I have always fantasized that someday, I will walk down a street – any street - and people will rush out asking me to sign my autograph for them. I have carried this dream for so long until truth dawned on me. I discovered that my dream has long come to pass but unfortunately I deliberately refused to sign my autograph despite the desperate pleas of people I meet where ever I go.

The truth I discovered is that people have a silent plea in their hearts – a desperate plea. They ache for normalcy. They ache for affection. They ache for relationships. They are emotionally hungry and mal-nourished, without hope of being shown love or care. A simple smile will do them a world of good. A friendly hug will help lighten their burden. A sincere and sweet sentence will help a great deal. They silently plead with us: SIGN YOUR AUTOGRAPH ON ME. We move about each day oblivious of the pains and hurts in the people we interact with. We fail to notice the forced smile on their faces or the mechanical laughter they try to conjure in their bid to cover up their pains. Painfully, we leave them as we met them without fulfilling their silent but desperate plea: SIGN YOUR AUTOGRAPH ON ME.

What will you be most remembered for? Your insensitivity or sensitivity? Your lack of affection or your warm heart? Your coldness to others or the warmth you radiate? Your self-centered-ness or selflessness? Your value-added interactions or your value-diminishing interactions? If the summary of your existence with others is negative then it means you have successfully denied them their pleas to have you sign your autograph on them – on their hearts.

Have a minute’s thought? What will you be really missed for? Surely, you’ll be missed but for what? What will be the outcome of your interactions with peers, friends, team members, colleagues, neighbors and most especially, strangers? Will they miss you for the peace you bring or for the peace you take away? Will you be missed for your friendliness or for your hostility? Will that stranger you met today remember he/she met an angel? Common, it’s so easy. Just have a heart for others.

Don’t be stingy with your smile. There are more where it came from! You can’t exhaust the supply of smiles God gave you. A smile is so important yet its so free. Be lavish with your smiles and be sincere about it. Your smile kindles a spark of love in whoever receives it. It doesn't hurt to smile, even to a stranger, rather, a smile breaks the wall of hostility between you and others. It softens the heart of all who receives it when it is done sincerely. It makes others comfortable with you and it boosts your confidence. You don’t lose anything when you give someone a smile.

Choose to be kind! Kind people are held dear! The world will be so acidic and cruel if mankind has lost the virtue of kindness. Choose to allow others get ahead of you. Choose to help pick a fallen pen. Choose to clean a seat for someone. Choose to comment on someone’s dressing or beauty. Choose to help someone for free. Help that granny with a chair, she can’t stand for too long. Give someone else your seat when there are others standing while you are sitting. Consider the poor, the pregnant, the aging, the disabled, the hurting and rejected. Choose to offer them a little of the kindness they desire badly but have been so long denied of. Common, it’s not difficult. Be an angel with a heart of gold.

It is a fact that every living being aches for love and affection. Maturity doesn't take that need away. Everyone you come across, no matter how old, rich, powerful, poor, educated or not educated, remember that he/she is begging you to SIGN YOUR AUTOGRAPH ON THEM. Don’t deny them that plea.

So, when are you going to start signing your autographs on people? Now?

If yes, begin with me. Hahahaha...just kidding!

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Am I a fool?

How are you friends? It is another inspiring week. I must tell you that this week has been more of a tutorial to me. Make a commitment to learn something from all that happens to you each day for that is how real lessons of life are learnt. I am getting better with each experience, good and bad alike.

The today talk is a mind troubling one! Am I a fool? Are you a FOOL? 

You will decide that...

It is a question that is often asked especially when it involves issue of rights and honor. But come to think of it, have you been a fool? What if you have been a fool? That's hard to say anyway! Let me run the attributes of fools. I think after you go through this you proudly know if you've been a fool or a wise person.

• It is a fool that believes in politeness in our current world of rudeness.
• It is a fool that waits for his/her turn on a queue without 'shunting'.
• It is a fool that says 'I am sorry'. The wise are never sorry. Why should they be?
• It is a fool that says 'Thank you'. The wise believe its their right to be helped by others.
• It is a fool that chooses to clean up the dishes after meal while others are busy watching 'Gulder Ultimate Search'.
• It is a fool that believes in courtesy and humility. The wise call humility cowardice.
• It is a fool that goes about seeking repairs for what others destroyed.
• It is a fool that will not cheat in an exams despite having opportunities to do so. I don't know why fools always keep their integrity.
• It is a fool that waits to be told before they do things. The wise know better!
• It is a fool that smiles when insulted. The wise are very pro-active. A good slap from them will do!

The world have been blessed by fools who knew better than to fight for everything in the name of fighting for their rights. From Mother Theresa who will always run after homeless and helpless children instead of concentrating on her religious duties, to the student who will refuse to cheat instead of passing with high grades, we see all sort of ‘folly’ displayed.

It is a brave thing to be a fool in today’s world of wise people. It is blessed to be the fool that will add value to others than to be the wise man that robs others of their will to live through strife, rudeness and heartlessness. The level of wickedness has made every good man look like a fool and wickedness has become ‘wisdom’! Every sincere person is counted a weakling while insincere and heartless brutes are termed brave. Brave, my foot! The world celebrates the fierce and the rude and terms them ‘smart’while the cool-headed guy is mocked and called a ‘sissy’.

What our values? What do we really live for? What really counts? Is it brutality or humility? “smartness”or sincerity? Why do the world look down on sincere people but identifies and immortalizes insincere people? It makes me wonder at times if the world approves of such acts of wickedness. Isn't it the same society who mocks the “sincere” that complains with bitter tears about the injustice of the “insincere”? I wonder sometimes who is really the fool and the fooled! I wonder the title of the drama is. Which drama? The drama we see everyday...in the mall, on the streets, in religious centers, in the market, etc. People cheer the harsh bully who will beat up a fellow being rather than bear an insult but will mock the cool-headed guy who walks away when insulted! People laugh at the guy with a high sense of responsibility, calling him a “too-know” but yet cry out in pains at the irresponsibility of government and other authorities Isn't that a wonderful drama! Funny! Bizarre! Very foolish!

If this is what the world calls ‘wisdom’then I am very proud to be a fool! If hurting a fellow being is what constitutes ‘wisdom’in our generation, then i refuse to be ‘wise’. I will gladly remain a fool. If wisdom means trampling others down and thinking about myself only the I AM A FOOL!

Ask yourself again, in the context of what we have discussed, are you a fool? If you are not yet a fool, i recommend you become one. Strip yourself of your ego. Think more about the other fellow. Be considerate. Be kind. Let others have the lion share. Allow others to light their candles from your light. It will in no way decrease the brightness of your light, rather, you be multiplying yourself in others. Take a break and say something polite to others. 

These are the things ‘fools’like me do which has given us rich, stress-less and fulfilling lives. If you are a ‘fool’ like me, I congratulate you. You are brave. Spread your light. Be more ‘foolish’. You aren't alone. ‘Foolish’people like you and me are those who have sustained mankind till date. Scream from the rooftops after reading this ...I AM A FOOL! You will startle people for sure. Explain what you mean and be sure to observe what ‘wise’people will say. Do this and catch fun! You will discover that there are very few foolish people...whom the world can do nothing without! 

Cheers...

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HEROES' GENE

It's the beginning of a new week, friends. I hope the previous weeks haven't been sour for you? Well, I have something to share to keep your minds busy for sometime. Enjoy!!! 

 I have come to discover through careful observation and study of the human race that a breed of humans exist who are naturally wired for greatness. It doesn't matter if they are educated or not. They always achieve more glory than others even if their efforts are minimal. They always stand out among their peers. They are like 'gods' to/among their peers. They cannot endure mediocrity. They just can't see a situation going bad and still stand idly to watch. It's very unlike them. Wherever they go they are easily noticed and respected no matter how young they are. They are not bothered by impossibility. Nothing is too difficult for them to do. In fact, they love tackling tough things. One funny thing is that they are always entrusted with leadership even if they do not desire it. They can not camouflage their personality even if they wish to. People desire their friendship not minding if they are too young, ugly, poor, uneducated or disabled . I have discovered that there's something in them that speaks volumes about them to whoever they come across. There's something that makes them act, think, speak, relate and dream differently. It's what I termed the "HEROES' GENE". 

It can never be masked. It always seeks expression. One more thing....these people are born with this gene. They did not acquire it!! They didn't train themselves to be these. It's innate!! It's in-born!! Hmmm. Look around you, see for yourselves and prove me right. Ensure you catch fun this week. Life is too short to be wasted worrying over petty, ephemeral things. Don't waste an opportunity to share a smile with somebody...anybody!


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